Exceptional Excellence

 

Exceptional Excellence

 

I came up with the phrase Exceptional Excellence a few years ago. I needed to define a venture that I founded. My venture is called STRIVE for Exceptional Excellence. I started striveforexceptionalexellence.com in 2018. A program focusing on inclusion and diversity. STRIVE for Exceptional Excellence supports different abilities in the workplace; I shortened the name to Exceptional Excellence in 2022.  I think of the phrase Exceptional Excellence as being like a coin. Coins look different on each side; however, they possess the same value. A quarter has a picture of George Washington on one side. It has an eagle on the other side. Nevertheless, both sides are still worth 25 cents. To me, Exceptional is one side of a coin and Excellence is the other side of the same coin. If a person is characterized as being exceptional that means they are unique. It’s that uniqueness that makes them excellence… correct?

 I also thought about my son when I “coined” (Get It “coined”) the phase Exceptional Excellence. My son is autistic. My son’s autism exudes a flair of uniqueness. It doesn’t lessen his worth/or value. My son is Exceptional, and he is Excellence!  I can’t imagine him being any other way. As a child, he could recite every line in his favorite movies.  I still remember the day that his little sister dropped a gallon of Kool-Aid on my newly mopped floor. My son used a   single paper towel to clean up that mess! Literally and figuratively speaking.  I couldn’t help but laugh watching him drag that poor paper towel across that pool of red Kool-Aid. How could I get mad at my daughter when her brother was exhibiting such an act of kindness? He is an adult. He is the gentlest gentleman I know. He remembers to get my workbag everyday and puts it in the car. If I attempt to carry it myself. My son will say, “mom I got it!” “I can carry it for you!” My son’s voice is monotone. His voice doesn’t rise even when his day wasn’t the greatest. About a year ago my son was scammed. Some FOOL used his bank card. They withdrew all his money. The bank reimbursed his funds. My son stayed calm throughout the entire incident. If that was me being scammed, I would have used my arsenal of profanities until my money was replaced (probably even after the money was returned)

 

Society is made up of people with different abilities. My son can drive but I can’t (ok the secret is out - I am a nondriver ) We aren’t the same and that’s ok. Exceptional Excellence is the idea that being different is what makes us great! Exceptional is defined as being unusual, uncommon, or atypical. Excellence is defined as being outstanding or extremely good. Together they can help to characterize a person’s uncommon qualities. People with different abilities are Exceptionally Excellence!

 

             

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Myths About Disabilities

I need to vent just a little:)

I started my LLC 5 years ago. I noticed pretty soon after that, that some people believed that I was trying to force people with disabilities to get a job! I received some Hater-Aid on my social media pages. Comments that unfortunately made me second guess myself; I wont go into details about what was said, but the comments were so negative that I even thought about giving up my LLC:( Thankfully, I have surrounded myself with family and friends that remind me about the importance of the work I am doing. My teaching experiences, and the situations I have been through while raising my son (he's autistic) is validation that more is needed to support STRIVE for Exceptional Excellence. So, I continued on even added more to my to my LLC. Moving forward, I decided to research what reputable companies (businesses) feel about the subject of working with a disabilities (in other words, I "Google It" ) I came across an interesting article titled: Myths and Facts About People with Disabilities What's interesting is that there are more myths about the subject of disabilities then most people realize. The myth that disturbed me the most is the idea that if you are diagnosed with a disability, society assumes that you have no abilities. What?! I find that myth #12 is one of the worst assumptions that I have ever heard. The idea that people think that if an individual has a disability, they are incapable of any task! that's basically saying that: "People with disabilities always need help." however it should be known that; " many people with disabilities are independent and capable of giving help. If you would like to help someone with a disability, ask if he or she needs before you act." My son is autistic. He is 31 years old (OMG! My baby grew up so fast!) and believe it or not, he can do many things that I can't. His breakfast cooking skills are unbelieve. He makes pancakes and french toast better that anyone I know (Restaurants too). My son can drive a car. A skill that I still have not acquired. He also has the kindest heart. A personality traits that many people are missing. The point I'm trying to make is we all have abilities. We all have things we can and can not do. As the article Myths and Facts About People with Disabilities stated, many people diagnosed are independent. We must do our due diligence in order to determine a person's capabilities. I encourage the use of interest surveys. Interest surveys help determine what jobs maybe suitable for each potential employee; When you choose a career that matches your interest, you're more likely enjoy your job. I also encourage including volunteer work onto your resume'. Employers want to know about your past job experiences. Volunteer work is a job experience. So, be sure to add it to your resume. Ok. I think I'm finish venting. I am interested in hearing what others have to say about this subject. Reply to my post or contact me via my website STRIVE for Exceptional Excellence .

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Making friends may come natural to most but may not be the case for someone with a disability… really?

 I’m embarrassed to say that my sister had to make me aware of the fact that making friends can be difficult. I’ve always been a little shy, but I was always fortunate enough to find a good friend. I’ve had the same best friend since I was in seventh grade, and over the years I’ve managed to make a few more. What I didn’t know is that individuals with disabilities often struggle with things we don’t think twice about, like making friends. My sister was diagnosed with cerebral palsy when she was a baby. Today she is the proud single parent  of my wonderful nephew Malik 🥰.  She has made a few friends over the years but told me how difficult socializing can be.  My sister is one of the most giving, loving, sweet and sincere people I know, so when she told me she struggled with getting to know people I was heart broken. My sister talked about how many of the people she met in social programs were  much younger than her, and finding friends amongst her peers outside of social programs was almost impossible. Making friends may come  natural to most but may not be the case for someone with a disability. I know there are a few programs out there that give social events.  But I’m sure going to an event once a year or a social program a few times a month isn’t a lot of time to make a good friend. So, I think it’s time that we change the way we meet people and make them our friend. Do you have a friend with an exceptionality. A person with a disability that’s not related to you in anyway. I for one love talking to people about their stories, so I’m asking you to share your story. How did you meet? What do y’all like to do for fun? How long have y’all be friends? What are some milestones that you’ve gone there together? What are some challenges that y’all have faced together? Let’s talk about it. 

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Are you trying to force individuals with disabilities to get jobs🤬?!

Are you trying to force individuals with disabilities to get jobs🤬?!

 No. But, I’m a firm believer that opportunity should be given to All! I became a teacher in 2007. What I remember the most about my certification journey is how important it was to develop activities that were differentiated.  The word differentiated was always written somewhere in the feedback given to me by professors or school administrators. They stressed the importance of implementing class lessons that accommodated Every student. So, when I saw a laughing face and crying emojis on my social media pages as comments to my post about inclusive employment, I started wondering if people thought that I was  trying to force individuals with disabilities to get jobs?! Again, the answer to that question is No. what I’m trying to do is make sure that employment opportunities are available to every person including those with disabilities. A few days ago,  I reached out to employers of  large and small companies asking them about possibly employing disabled teens and adults. Some companies had no response and others spent me an email with information from the u.s. Department of Labor Disability Division; www.dol.gov. My question was simply asking them if they would like to post job openings onto my App. An App specially-designed to help disabled teens and adults with disabilities. To be fair, these companies don’t know me. I’m not a brand (not yet 😬) but I was hoping that they would at least ask for more information. As a special education teacher, I know about information written in the law titled The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA). I know that the law includes policies that talk about inclusion and discrimination in the workplace. And of course the IDEA law  helps many people, But the truth is that teens and adults with disabilities are still discriminated against and face inclusion issues. I know this because I’m the mother of an Autistic adult. I also have friends and family members with disabilities that struggle with finding employment. Many who have applied for jobs and  have asked for job assistant programs  to help them with job seeking, Most of the people I know have never received a call, and in some cases were placed on waitlist for over 10 years. I know how disheartening  it can be to want the same opportunities as your peers and not be treated any differently than anyone else. I know I can be a little sensitive, and maybe the people who posted those emojis on my Facebook page didn’t mean any harm 🙄, and I didn’t have my comments turned on so that they could really tell me how they feel, so I won’t hold it against them for making me feel like crap after posting about my Wonderful App 🥰 nevertheless, I still wanna know how people feel about inclusion in the workforce.  I wanna know how  people feel about technology, programs, jobs, etc developed  specifically for people with disabilities. I would like to know how people with disabilities feel about job seeking, vocational training, job retention. I would also like to know how employers feel about hiring people with disabilities. And, I want parents to express their feelings about their disabled  adult child entering into the workforce. Parents, Do y’all feel like there is enough programs readily available to help with inclusive employment? Let’s talk About. 

BTW- my name is Delicia. I’m the mother of 2 adults. My son was diagnosed with autism at 5 yrs old. He will be 30 this year (thanks if you looked at my profile pic and said I look young to be the mother of a 30 year old 🤣) Anyways, my son is gainfully employed at Egleston’s Children’s Hospital in Atlanta Georgia. My daughter is a doctor and a captain in the army. I’ve been married for almost 27 years, I love a good book, going to the beach, and  I love love love a good hearty belly laugh 💙💛 so, don’t be afraid to post a good joke (keep it clean tho🤪) 

To Learn More about me and what I’ve been up to  please visit: www.striveforexceptionalexcellence.com

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